My 14yr old hasn't been doing school work. I've been on her about it, it got to a point where I grounded her from her phone, tv, and video games for the rest of the year. The issue has been going on for months, with her lying nonstop until I find out the truth. She's also in therapy due to emotional issues from her dad being a deadbeat. I told her therapist she's still having issues with missing work, so to take the heat off of her, she tells her therapist that I threatened to sl*t her throat. Later I'm told I also threatened to not feed her for 2 months if she doesn't get me a certain xmas gift. I don't know what to make of this or to do until her next appt. I pray it's just a phase, but I had a talk with her about how her lies could destroy our family. Anyone else ever deal with this?

(P1/2)There is some serious bullshit going on in my friend group. B and I are both going through the emotional wringer. He knows that I dealing with panic attacks around COVID, and that I don't want to see him for several days anytime he is among a large group of people indoors for fear of being triggered. He went on a plane a few months ago, and then had a meltdown when I didn't want to see him right after, which then caused me to have a panic attack. We are just getting past that now. Well, I saw him several times in the past week, every time asking him how he is doing, what he is up to, even asking if he could come over on Sunday (he said he was busy) or if I could deliver cookies on Monday (no thanks!). Then I found out through a mutual friend he was busy flying across the US and back!

(P2/2) So when he texted me tonight, I told him I was really hurt that he would try to hide that from me. He now has another friend involved, who is trying to tell me "he thought you knew". Really? That is why he never mentioned it? Even I asked? Twice?! And I can think of several nice reasons he didn't tell me (like, he was trying to protect me emotionally), but apparently he is going to just try to lie his way through this. The mutual friend is is asking if I'm ok, and I am really tempted to tell her in great detail my side of the story, but I don't have the emotional energy for this level of drama. I'm going to try to just let this go, but I don't see me trusting B anytime soon. He really isn't an ass, he is just acting like one this week.

Everybody acting up at one time. They all seem to know when I'm at my lowest and suddenly come out of the woodwork expecting me to do the emotional work to help them get back on their feet. I don't have any more to give, my cup is past empty. Come back another day or stay mad, IDGAF.

He was extra, extra nice to me after it went down, but I still need to put boundaries. Part of wonders how long this will last. I will really take care of myself and recover after an emotional few days not to mention the illegal fireworks bombs that went off on 4th. Thanks to my upstanding neighbors, I got no sleep at all from 11am-3am.

Replying to cocopop, no there's nobody. My husband thinks therapy is a waste of money. My mom is an emotionally abusive narcissist and my dad died last year. My siblings are far away or irresponsible and i have no friends. I'm really bad at making friends. I'm looking into online therapy options anyway. I can't afford to stay like this and i don't really know what to do.

Being prodded, nagged, and emotionally coerced into sex eventually caused me to completely shut down sexually. Not good advice. I think this is the reason that a lot of couples stop having sex. No one talks about it but it is sexual abuse.

The older I get, the more I realize how emotionally abusive my parents were. I have emotional issues now, but honestly, I am surprised I do not have a lot more. I posted on Truu and on here about something that happened in middle school, and yes I still think about it as an adult. (see confession 3649 in Parenting) And that was only ONE thing that happened. Mom's laziness and Dad's "strong personality" and inability to keep a job meant very little money growing up. My parents have both passed away now, I hate to say this but I am somewhat better off emotionally now. I realize now I should have distanced myself from them. But they had me convinced I could not do anything on my own, and even hid my mail so my credit got hit. Bad credit means no apartment or car loan, and staying dependent.

Bit of a rant; does anyone watch Yellowstone? I really hate the character of Beth Dutton. Shows seem to think the only way to portray a woman as strong and capable, is to make her an emotionally broken, alcoholic cunt with daddy issues. She's completely self destructive, treats everyone, including strangers terribly, and is always acting mentally unstable and unhinged. The other female character, is considered weak, because she just does what her husband says, and he's considered a great husband and father. Because she is weak, she is considered the nice one. I like the show but the tropes annoy me.

How is it going, OP? I have been on an emotional eating binge for the past month or so, but found a free app called Recovery Record that offers support for logging meals, journaling, meditation, and other coping skills and support. I'm hopeful that putting in the work will get me back on track.